"The obsession with passing stems from the idea that being trans is something you do purely to be perceived as a woman to other people."
Or, and here me out, it stems from staggering face and/or body dysphoria, the pure despair every.single.time you look into your mirror and see a man, and all the tears and screams and rather poorly written arguments in the world couldn't do anything about it...
Am I missing something, or is there a contradiction between this:
"Some backstory on me: I realized I was trans at 16, started hormones at 18. As I write this, I am almost 21, and have not been outside in a skirt, dress, makeup, or anything more feminine than skinny jeans once."
And these:
"If you pass, great! Fun! If you don’t, I promise you it’s not the end of the world."
"As long as you don't live in a crazy conservative area and have only moderate dysphoria, I promise you that the benefits outweigh the risks."
Like... can you really make that promise if you haven't experienced it yourself?
Excellent post, Celeste. I think if more MTFs took this approach, they would be happier. It is a wise to focus on your own internal locus of control and quest for self-love rather than adopting an external locus of control by basing your happiness on the whims of strangers and their perceptions.
"The obsession with passing stems from the idea that being trans is something you do purely to be perceived as a woman to other people."
Or, and here me out, it stems from staggering face and/or body dysphoria, the pure despair every.single.time you look into your mirror and see a man, and all the tears and screams and rather poorly written arguments in the world couldn't do anything about it...
bait used to be believable
Am I missing something, or is there a contradiction between this:
"Some backstory on me: I realized I was trans at 16, started hormones at 18. As I write this, I am almost 21, and have not been outside in a skirt, dress, makeup, or anything more feminine than skinny jeans once."
And these:
"If you pass, great! Fun! If you don’t, I promise you it’s not the end of the world."
"As long as you don't live in a crazy conservative area and have only moderate dysphoria, I promise you that the benefits outweigh the risks."
Like... can you really make that promise if you haven't experienced it yourself?
I know people who have and they are happier because of it, I am way closer to being able to go out in what I want than I was when I wrote this
Excellent post, Celeste. I think if more MTFs took this approach, they would be happier. It is a wise to focus on your own internal locus of control and quest for self-love rather than adopting an external locus of control by basing your happiness on the whims of strangers and their perceptions.
sarah2#8460 i wanna have an actual discussion on this. add me?
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Your article is heartwarming, i feel validated, thank you:3
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